A Wedding Ceremony is a wonderful opportunity to include children. It signifies to the child that they are important to you and if done right, it helps build confidence and poise. If you or your fiancee have a niece, or a young cousin, or a friends' child, or especially a child from a former marriage, this is a lovely and easy way to include them. The role is important and requires no speaking so can be done by even the shyest of children. To make this an enjoyable experience for all, here are three tips I have found useful in having children as flower girls.
1. Attire: Flower girls usually wear simple party dresses in white or other light colors with accents in colors to match the bridesmaids. They can have tiaras or flower wreaths in their hair.
2. Flower Girl Baskets: They should be small enough so that the child can easily hold it, but deep enough to hold a good number of petals. Many brides make a gift of the basket to the young girl which becomes a treasured keepsake and reminder of this wonderful event.
3. Processional and Recessional: The Flower Girl should be present at the rehearsal so she can practice walking in and out to the music. Sometimes it is hard for children to understand how to scatter the petals so you should plan to rehearse with actual petals. If she is very young, have one the parents at the back in the last row, inside aisle, guiding her in the beginning and the other parent at the front end so she can see where she is to go to.
4. More than One: Having two children as your attendants can help ease any shyness and nervousness they might feel. It is very reassuring to walk together with someone else, just like the bridesmaids do. They can have matching outfits or you can vary the colors for example, one could wear a light colored dress with a sash in the main color and the other could wear the main color with a white or light colored sash.